I'm going to a conference and will see someone there from my professional past I greatly dislike
I've not seen this person in 10 years, but she is always sarcastic and bitchy towards me. I have no idea how I'm supposed to deal with her. I also know she has suffered from some degree of mental illness.
Do I acknowledge her if we are at the same cocktail reception? Do I just hiss at her in passing?
Help me, Datalounge: you're my only hope!
by Anonymous | reply 36 | October 17, 2024 12:26 PM
|
Stick your leg out and trip her.
by Anonymous | reply 1 | October 16, 2024 1:26 AM
|
Be cordial and say hello. That's it.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | October 16, 2024 1:30 AM
|
Ignore her.
If, for some reason, you're forced to acknowledge her, simply look at her, don't smile, say "hello," then immediately walk away. I guarantee she won't come near you again.
That's all you need to do.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | October 16, 2024 1:30 AM
|
Is being a mature adult an option, OP?
by Anonymous | reply 4 | October 16, 2024 1:33 AM
|
Ask her if she's had work done on her face.
by Anonymous | reply 5 | October 16, 2024 1:34 AM
|
Pretend she doesn't exist and if she comes up to you, pretend you don't remember her.
Then, if she persists, go "oh, yes" and walk away without another word.
I'm sure that will put her in her place.
by Anonymous | reply 7 | October 16, 2024 1:36 AM
|
[quote] Is being a mature adult an option, OP?
You clearly can't manage it, so I don't see why you would raise the question.
by Anonymous | reply 8 | October 16, 2024 1:39 AM
|
Mature adult is the best option.
Say hello to her, make mindless but cordial small talk for a minute and then move on.
by Anonymous | reply 9 | October 16, 2024 1:40 AM
|
GET OVER YOURSELF and move one. You seem like a pathetic milquetoast.
by Anonymous | reply 10 | October 16, 2024 1:40 AM
|
If she’s even slightly chubby, say hello and ask her when the baby is due.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | October 16, 2024 1:40 AM
|
“Professional past” = prostitute
by Anonymous | reply 12 | October 16, 2024 1:44 AM
|
OP, nothing personal but you sound like a spineless moron.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | October 16, 2024 1:45 AM
|
Well, that's your second personal attack against me, r13, since r4 was your first. Will you just keep going at it repeatedly?
***yawns, checks watch***
by Anonymous | reply 14 | October 16, 2024 1:49 AM
|
r14 Nah, that was it. I asked a question, you responded weakly, then after continued reading, I came to the conclusion at r13. Carry on, and best of luck, sweetheart.
by Anonymous | reply 15 | October 16, 2024 1:52 AM
|
Kick her in the cuntbone? Slap her viciously?
by Anonymous | reply 16 | October 16, 2024 1:53 AM
|
I'm thinking r16's is probably the best advice so far.
by Anonymous | reply 17 | October 16, 2024 1:54 AM
|
Just ignore her OP and spend your energy on more important things. If you come into immediate contact with her say hello and wish her a pleasant conference and then move on. You don't owe her anything. She doesn't have any power over your life unless you give it to her.
by Anonymous | reply 18 | October 16, 2024 1:57 AM
|
R18 and R19 — very sensible advice, but I’m here to cause messiness.
by Anonymous | reply 20 | October 16, 2024 2:03 AM
|
Stealth bragging-about-a-free-trip thread.
by Anonymous | reply 21 | October 16, 2024 2:04 AM
|
Simple...if you run into each other and she says, "Oh, Hi!" respond with, "I'm sorry...do I know you?"
by Anonymous | reply 22 | October 16, 2024 2:07 AM
|
R16 is what you want to hear, OP.
R11 is hilarious, but unnecessary.
R3 and R4 are basically the same thing, and this is what you ought to do, but you already know this.
I have to return to my company's "Mothership" annually for training. There are more people I look forward to seeing, by coincidence, than people I would dread. I hope I can channel the adult/mature option to acknowledge them, and yet NOT engage, should that time come. Good luck OP!
by Anonymous | reply 23 | October 16, 2024 2:15 AM
|
OK then R20 - OP should viciously slap that bitchy look off her face and then kick her in the cuntbone. More than once if necessary. She'll eventually get the message...
by Anonymous | reply 24 | October 16, 2024 2:19 AM
|
R24 Agreed.
It’s good to have options.
by Anonymous | reply 25 | October 16, 2024 2:21 AM
|
Tell her how she has kept her figure, and added so much to it!
by Anonymous | reply 26 | October 16, 2024 2:24 AM
|
Drop your guts next to her then loudly call her out for it.
by Anonymous | reply 27 | October 16, 2024 2:27 AM
|
Smile, but don't engage.
The nutty always make themselves into the victim. Narcissists always want to be the center of attention.
Best strategy is to give her NOTHING in any interaction. People like that DEMAND that you react to feed their egos.
by Anonymous | reply 28 | October 16, 2024 2:27 AM
|
I would also just say a hello, exchange some minimal pleasantries, and then keep my distance.
by Anonymous | reply 30 | October 16, 2024 7:40 PM
|
[quote] exchange some minimal pleasantries
No... just no! "exchange some minimal pleasantries" pretty much means introducing one's foot into another's cunt bone.
by Anonymous | reply 31 | October 17, 2024 1:53 AM
|
I remember a time when gay men were known for their exquisite manners and skill at small talk.
I guess those days are over.
by Anonymous | reply 32 | October 17, 2024 2:01 AM
|
See if there is a fondue pot nearby..
by Anonymous | reply 33 | October 17, 2024 2:21 AM
|
[quote] I guess those days are over.
Indeed. That’s why I can’t take my car to a lesbian garage any longer.
by Anonymous | reply 34 | October 17, 2024 2:40 AM
|
When you haven’t seen someone in ten years, it’s odd to characterize them as “always” anything.
by Anonymous | reply 35 | October 17, 2024 2:42 AM
|
Neither can I, R34! But I'm not at all mechanically inclined, and everything I've done to my vehicles has been difficult to achieve, even with YouTubes guiding me.
Anyone can learn good manners if they choose to do so.
by Anonymous | reply 36 | October 17, 2024 12:26 PM
|